10 Things You Should Never Do to Your Children That You Think Are Acts of Love

We want to give our children the best. We would love to give our children all the things we never got to have. But sometimes parents go too far with the way they show their affection. And this doesn’t bring the best out of our kids. Before things get out of hand, pay attention to the points listed below.

1. Making them feel like kings.

It is important to make your kids feel special, but losing your authority to them will only have negative consequences. Asserting your authority means establishing borders, boundaries and limitations as you raise them. Although it is vital to entrust them with certain responsibilities, it is your duty as the parent to guide them through it and make a success of whatever they are given.

2. Entrusting them with too much money.

Money is a tool; it is never an ornament. The earlier you make them understand this, the better off your kids will be. Although we live in a time of abundance and so many easy options and access, it is your job to manage resources, however abundant. Entrusting them with a million dollars or buying expensive jewelry for them in their early years will be too much for them to handle, and the end result will be a child who is not thankful for anything.

3. Stopping them from working.

Work is essential in life. Every responsible adult has to work to earn a living. Making them understand this is beneficial to their success as adults. Understandably you may want to protect them from anything that is laborious but teaching them the vital lesson of work will be more protective than destructive. Set expectations for them as they try to go to college. Let them appreciate earning something of value and feeling proud of this.

4. Encouraging them not to give back.

One of the most essential lessons my parents taught me was why I should give back. That is the flow of life. You take and you give. Do not hold your children back from wanting to reach out and volunteer whether in deeds or in charity.

4. Not requiring them to be grateful.

You may feel your child deserves everything he/she receives and owes no one a thing. But this does not stir an appreciative spirit in them. Words like “thank you” have a way of making them understand the importance of everything they are given.

5. Acting like a spoiled child before them.

We as parents are supposed to lead by example. Our children should see that responsibility in us, that we are firm and tact. We shouldn’t be whining and complaining about everything in front of them.

6. Failing to establish boundaries.

By nature kids want to be pampered and spoiled. It is not your duty as parents to make this happen. Rather, you are meant to make sure they become well-behaved and likable. To do this, limitations and restrictions are meant to be established; if not, the child becomes disrespectful and rude.

7. Letting them have their way all the time.

It is all about picking what you should be giving to them and what you shouldn’t. There is a difference with wanting a new gadget or having candy. It is left for you to choose those things they should have their way with and those things they shouldn’t.

8. Offering them gifts for the wrong reasons.

If your child is bored with the old toy you bought for him/her and you have to offer a new one as a way to stop them from whining, you are offering them gifts for the wrong reasons. Gifts should be offered to show they are deserving of it and they have shown they are responsible enough to handle and manage them.

9. Discouraging relationships that will build them up.

It is not about being with other spoiled kids. Sometimes it serves you wonderful benefits to take them to gatherings of older people who will share insightful knowledge with them. Let them see the benefits in being thankful. Invite people who are participating in volunteer work to your homes. Stifling the child in unhealthy relationships spoils the child.

10. Withholding your child from being accountable.

Your child should be accountable for his/her actions. Yes your child will make mistakes, but not holding them accountable for these mistakes doesn’t make them see the importance of learning from mistakes.

Source: http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-things-you-should-never-your-children-that-you-think-are-acts-love.html

These 20 Images Of Child Labor Will Make You Speechless

Though over a decade ago the International Labor Organization (ILO) named June 12 World Day Against Child Labor, there are still millions of children throughout the world who are employed illegally.They miss out on education and the joy that should make up a happy childhood.

Child labor is mentally, physically and emotionally draining, and in extreme cases can be classed as enslavement.

Below are 20 images of child labor taken around the world. What they do for a living will make you speechless…

Shaheen, 10, works at an aluminium factory. Taken in Dhaka, Bangladesh, on November 16, 2009.

Masud, 6, collects spare vehicle parts in Dholaikhal, Dhaka, Bangladesh, on February 29, 2012.

Naginah Sadiq, 5, works in a brick factory collecting clay in Islamabad, Pakistan, on June 12, 2012.

Taken in Lad Rymbai, in the district of Jaintia Hills, India on April 16, 2011. Many local parents refuse to let their children go to school despite the fact they provide free tuition.

Takenin Chheuteal village, Kandal province, Cambodia, on May 2, 2011. This girl dries bricks for a brick factory.

Takenin Khartoum, Sudan, on September 17, 2011. Like many people in the Darfur region, this boy makes money by forming mud blocks.

Taken in New Delhi, India, on June 12, 2012. This young boy is cleaning bike parts, possibly to sell.

Taken in Dhaka, on April 19, 2012. Another young boy works in an aluminium factory. It’s thought that over 6 million children under the age of 14 in Bangladesh work.

Jacques Monkotan, 4, works in an excavation site in Dassa-Zoume, Benin, on February 25, 2007.

Takenin NayPyiTaw, Burma on December 6, 2011. This young girl carries cement needed for a new hotel.

Czoton, 7, is employe at a balloon factory in Dhaka, Bangladesh, on November 23, 2009.

Hazrat, 7, works at a brick factory inJalalabad, Afghanistan.

Rustam, 10, works in an aluminium factory in Dhaka, Bangladesh. 25 other children work with him for 12 hours a day.

This child is an illegal immigrant who collects plastic at a rubbish dump in Mae Sot, Thailand.

This child arranges bricks on the outskirts of Herat, Afghanistan.

Another young child works in a rubbish dump in Islamabad, Pakistan.

Issa, 10, works in a weapons factory for the Free Syrian Army in Aleppo.

Numerous children refill cigarettes with locally grown tobacco in the Haragach in Rangpur district, Bangladesh.

This child is looking for recyclable plastic in Siem Reap, Cambodia.

Paulo Henrique Felix da Silveira, 9, scavenged in theSaramandaia slum in Recife, Brazil. A 2010 study found that 3.6% of the 20,166 people who collect rubbish are aged 10 – 17.

How to Learn Speed Reading

Whether you're hitting the textbooks in philosophy class or reading the morning newspaper, reading can feel tedious. Train yourself to speed read to get through these tasks much faster. Reading faster does lead to less understanding, but with practice you can overcome some of this effect.

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Learning to Speed Read

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   Stop talking to yourself. Almost every reader "subvocalizes," or moves their throat as they imagine speaking the words.^[1] This may help the reader remember concepts, but it's also a major barrier to speed.^[2][3] Here are a few ways to keep this habit to a minimum:

   • Chew gum or hum while you read. This occupies muscles used to subvocalize.^[4]
   • If you move your lips as you read, hold a finger against them.
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   Cover words you've already read. When reading, your eyes often move back to earlier words. Most of the time, these are short movements that probably don't improve understanding.^[5] Use an index card to cover words right after you read them, training yourself not to overuse this habit.

   • These "regressions" also happen when you've failed to understand something. If your eyes jump several words or lines back, that's a sign that you may need to slow down.
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   Understand eye movements. While reading, your eyes move jerkily, stopping on some words and skipping others. You can only read while your eyes are stopped. If you learn to make fewer movements per line, you'll read a lot faster. But be careful – research reveals limits to how much English readers can see at once:^[6]

   • You can read eight letters to the right of your eye position, but only four to the left. This is roughly two or three words at a time.
   • You notice letters 9–15 spaces to the right, but can't read them clearly.
   • Normal readers don't process words on other lines. Training yourself to skip lines and still understand them would be very difficult.
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   Train your eyes to make fewer movements. Your brain normally decides where to move your eyes based on how long or familiar the next words look.^[7] You can read faster if you train your eyes to move to specific places on the page instead. Try this exercise:^[8]

   • Place an index card over a line of text.
   • Write an X on the card, over the first word.
   • Write another X on the same line. Place it three words further for good understanding, five words for easy texts, or seven words to skim the main points.
   • Write more Xs at the same spacing, until you reach the end of the line.
   • Read quickly as you move the index card down, trying to only focus your eyes just below each X.
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   Set a pace faster than you can understand. Many programs claim to increase your reading speed by training your reflexes first, then practicing until your brain can catch up. This has not been thoroughly studied. It certainly increases the speed you move through the text, but you may understand little or nothing. Try this if you want to aim for extreme speed reading, and you might understand more after a few days of practice. Here's how:

   • Move a pencil along the text. Time this so you can say "one one thousand" at a calm pace and finish just as you reach the end of a line.
   • Spend two minutes trying to read at the pace of the pencil. Even if you can't understand anything, stay focused on the text and keep your eyes moving for the entire two minutes.
   • Rest for a minute, then go even faster. Spend three minutes trying to read at the pace of a pen that moves across two lines every time you say "one one thousand".
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   Try RSVP software. If you can't reach your goals with the techniques above, try RSVP, or Reading Rapid Serial Visual Presentation. In this approach, the phone app or computer software flashes text a single word at a time. This lets you choose any reading speed you like. Raise it too high, though, and you won't be able to remember a large percentage of the words.^[9] This may be useful to get a rapid summary of a news article, but not when studying or reading for fun.
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Skimming Text

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   Know when to skim. Skimming can be used to gain a shallow understanding of a text. It can be used to scan a newspaper for interesting material, or to get the important concepts out of a textbook in preparation for a test. It's not a good replacement for thorough reading.
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   Read titles and section headings. Begin by only reading the chapter titles and any subheadings at the start of large sections. Read the headlines of each newspaper article, or the table of contents in a magazine.^[10]
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   Read the beginning and end of a section. Textbooks usually contain introductions and summaries of each chapter. For other texts, just read the first and last paragraph of a chapter or article.

   • You can read quickly if you're familiar with the subject, but don't try to speedread as fast as possible. You're saving time by skipping most of the section, but you do need to understand what you're reading.
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   Circle important words throughout the text. If you still wish to learn more, brush your eyes rapidly across the page rather than reading normally. Now that you know the gist of the section, you can pick out key words that mark important areas. Stop and circle the following words:^[11]

   • Words that are repeated several times
   • The main ideas – often including words from the title or section header
   • Proper nouns
   • Italics, bold text, or underline
   • Words you don't recognize
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   Examine pictures and diagrams. These often present a lot of information without much reading required. Take a minute or two to make sure you fully understand each diagram.
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   Read the first sentence of each paragraph, if confused. If you've lost track of the subject, read the start of each paragraph. The first one or two sentences will teach you the main points.^[12]
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   Study using your annotations. Go back and look over the words you've circled. Can you "read" these and get a general sense of what the text is about? If you get confused at a certain word, try reading a few sentences around that word to remind yourself of the topic. Circle additional words as you do this.
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Timing Your Reading Speed

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   Time your reading speed. Track your progress by timing yourself daily, or each time you try these exercises. Trying to beat your best speed can provide great motivation. Here's how to time your reading in words per minute (wpm):^[13]

   • Count the number of words on a page, or count the number in one line and multiply by the number of lines on the page.
   • Set a timer for ten minutes and see how much you can read in that time.
   • Multiply the number of pages you read by the number of words per page. Divide by ten to get your words per minute.
   • You can use an online "speed reading test," but you will probably read at a different pace on a screen than on a printed page.^[14]
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   Set yourself goals. Your reading speed should improve if you repeat one or more of these exercises daily. Many people can double their reading speed after several weeks. Set yourself milestones to motivate yourself to keep practicing:

   • 200–250 words per minute is the expected reading speed for someone age 12 or older.^[15]
   • 300 wpm is the reading speed of the average college student.
   • At 450 wpm, you're reading as fast as a college student skimming for the main points. Ideally, you can do this with almost total comprehension.
   • At 600–700 wpm, you're reading as fast as a college student scanning to find a word. Most people can learn to read at this speed with about 75% of their normal comprehension.^[16]
   • At 1,000 wpm and above, you're reaching the level of competitive speed readers. This usually requires extreme techniques that skip over most of the text. Most people can't remember much at this speed.
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